TheEclectic, the wife must first clearly understand the God-given order and protocol.
1 Corinthians 11:3
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
And if she vowed in her husband's house, or bound her soul by a bond with an oath;
11And her husband heard it, and held his peace at her, and disallowed her not: then all her vows shall stand, and every bond wherewith she bound her soul shall stand.
12But if her husband hath utterly made them void on the day he heard them; then whatsoever proceeded out of her lips concerning her vows, or concerning the bond of her soul, shall not stand: her husband hath made them void; and the LORD shall forgive her. 13Every vow, and every binding oath to afflict the soul, her husband may establish it, or her husband may make it void.
This law makes it clear that the wife must be in FULL subjection to her husband. Any vow that a wife makes, (even to the MOST HIGH) her husband has the authority to approve it or make it void. Oftentimes wives make decisions or speak on behalf of HERSELF, the family and husband, if the husband does not agree with such a decision he can make it void without debate.
After this is understood, she must be taught that a VIRTUOUS woman/wife will reverence/obey her husband by all means for she is an example of order and virtue.
1 Peter 3:1
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
In three things I was beautified, and stood up beautiful both before God and men: the unity of brethren, the love of neighbours, a man and a wife that agree together
Blessed is the man that hath a virtuous wife, for the number of his days shall be double.
A woman that honoureth her husband shall be judged wise of all; but she that dishonoureth him in her pride shall be counted ungodly of all.
1. conforming to moral and ethical principles; morally excellent; upright: socially chaste, unwavering faithfulness, loyal, obedient.
2. chaste: a virtuous young person
She must understand that a virtuous woman will undoubedly win the trust of her husband because she behaves and thinks wisely.
10Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. 11The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. 12She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
Her husband will trust that she will make wise decisions and act honorbly and will give her more liberty to make certain decisions regarding the family because she demonstrates wisdom. Unlike a woman that acts the opposite he does not have to micromanage her.
A dishonest woman contemneth shame: but an honest woman will reverence her husband.
A silent (humble) and loving (upright) woman is a gift of the Lord; and there is nothing so much worth as a mind well instructed.
a non-virtuous woman will RESIST instruction from her husband.
After she understands and BELIEVES that a virtuous woman is honorable in the eyes of the Most High, and the evil wife will receive the evil judgment, she will have no problem receiving LAWFUL instruction from her husband. If her husband feels that she lacks certain needed skills, she will have no problem acquiring them. If her husband feels that her present career is detrimental in some way or fashion and instructs her to change, she will obey. Regardless if she disagrees she must still obey or else it becomes rebellion. However a woman that has a history of behaving wisely will cause her husband to consider her words but ultimately she knows she must adhere to HIS final decision.
For what if some did not believe? shall their unbelief make the faith of God without effect? (disrupt the laws and and order)
4God forbid: yea, let God be true, but every man a liar; as it is written, That thou mightest be justified in thy sayings, and mightest overcome when thou art judged.
We may not always agree but we are required to OBEY the protocal and orders of the scriptures without excuse. If the wife behaves virtuously she will not be repeatedly corrected as a child would be.
1 Corinthians 14:20
Brethren, be not children in understanding: howbeit in malice be ye children (innocent), but in understanding be men.
1 Corinthians 13:11
When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man (adult), I put away childish things.
The word of YHWH speaks to the young and old but A childish mind will understand as a child and unfortunately is treated as a child. If the word is received with maturity they won't feel as a child.
Hope that helps!!